17_CONFUSE
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posted on 03-02-2006 at 14:42 |
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HI
I'M A 17 YEAR OLD FEMALE AND I'M A VIRGIN. ME AND MY BOYFRIEND HAS NOT EVEN KISSED EACH OTHER YET AND WE HAVE BEEN DATING FOR 6 MONTHS NOW.MOST OF MY FRIENDS SAY THATS STRANGE.I DON'T LISTEN TO THEM BECAUSE ALL OF THEM ARE SEXUALLY ACTIVE.AND I KNOW I'M NOT READY TO MAKE THAT BIG STEP YET.BUT SOMETIMES I FEEL LIKE I DO WANT TO KISS HIM.BUT I JUST DON'T BECAUSE KISSING SEEM TO LEAD TO OTHER STUFF THESE DAYS.HE ISN'T A VIRGIN HE ACTUALLY HAD A LOT OF SEX PARTNERS(HE'S CAPT. OF THE BASKETBALL AND FOOTBALL TEAM)SO THAT'S EXPLAINS WHY HE HAD SO MANY SEX PARTNERS.DO YOU THINK I SHOULD MAKE THAT DECISION AND KISS HIM?
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22yearguyvirgin
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posted on 03-02-2006 at 16:37 |
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Welcom to the forum
If you feel unsure about kissing then you probably shouldn't until you feel certain that you are ready. I am a little concerned about the way you described your boyfriend. Many high school boys seem to have a big fantasy about going to bed with a virgin. So please do be careful around him.
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17_CONFUSE
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Registered: 03-02-2006 Location: SOMEWHERE IN FLORIDA
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posted on 03-07-2006 at 18:53 |
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WELL.....
ME AND MY BOYFRIEND DID KISS THE OTHER DAY.IT WAS COOL I FOUND OUT THAT HE WANTED TO KISS ME TOO AFTER ALL. I HAVE HEARD THAT IS A JOCKS DREAM TO GO TO BED WITH A VIRGIN. BUT WHEN WE FIRST STARTED GOING OUT I TOLD HIM I WAS A VIRGIN AND WASN'T READY TO CHANGE ANY THING ABOUT THAT ANY TIME SOON.HE COULDN'T BELIEVE THAT I'M A VIRGIN BECAUSE I'M CAPT. OF THE CHEERLEADING TEAM.BUT I DON'T KNOW WHY THAT WOULD MAKE HIM THINK ANYTHING.I'M GLAD I FOUND THIS SIGHT YOU GUYS SEEM REALLY NICE AND EASY TO TALK TOO.
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The_Scribe
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posted on 03-07-2006 at 20:57 |
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He's just looking to see how far he can go with you then dump you, seriously I've seen and heard this too many times.
He's a wolf in sheep's clothing. I'd watch him if I were you.
Then again I'd dump him.
If he's been with a lot of other women you really don't want him.
How will you be special to him?
Seriously look for another guy.
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17_CONFUSE
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Registered: 03-02-2006 Location: SOMEWHERE IN FLORIDA
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posted on 03-07-2006 at 21:21 |
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THE SCRIBE
WHY DO YOU COME OFF SO STRONG? HOW YOU JUST GOING TO TELL ME TO DUMP HIM?DON'T YOU THINK THAT'S MY DECISION.JUST BECAUSE HE'S BEEN WITH OTHER GIRLS THAT DON'T MEAN I WANT BE SPECIAL TO HIM.HE MIGHT IS JUST WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR. BECAUSE ME AND YOU HAVE TO DIFFERENT OPINIONS ABOUT A LOT OF STUFF.SO DON'T JUDGE ME AND HIM OFF OF WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT SEX OR WHATEVER.BUT THANKS FOR YOUR ADVICE ANYWAYSBUT I APPRECIATE IF YOU DON'T RESPOND TO MY TOPICS ANYMORE
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The_Scribe
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posted on 03-07-2006 at 21:33 |
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Well, he's still in high school and he's been around far too much.
I doubt he truly loves you.
He's probably just looking for a virgin.
I'd watch him, I just believe in waiting until marriage.
What if you get pregnant?
Will he stay with you?
I just want tom warn you.
He sounds shady to me.
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17_CONFUSE
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posted on 03-08-2006 at 11:17 |
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UMMMMM
WHO SAID ANYTHING ABOUT HAVING SEX WITH HIM IT'S ONLY A KISS.YOU ARE GETTING WAY A HEAD OF YOURSELF.I DIDN'T EVEN SAY I LOVE HIM SO WHAT MAKES YOU THINK I'M GOING TO JUMP IN THE BED WITH HIM?YOU NEED TO GET YOUR STUFF TOGETHER CAUSE YOU JUMP TO CONCLUSION TO FAST.AND AS FAR AS GETTING PREGNANT GOES OH HELL NO MY PARENTS WOULD KILL ME.THAT'S ONE OF THE REASON WHY I'M A VIRGIN TODAY.HE HAS NEVER TOUCH ME AN ANY WAY THAT MADE ME FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE OR SAID ANYTHING THAT I DISLIKED.BUT I DO HAVE SOME STRONG FEELINGS FOR HIM BUT I DON'T KNOW IF IT'S LOVE YET. HE DON'T SEEM SHADY TO ME.IF HE WANTED TO JUST HAVE SEX WITH ME HE WOULD HAVE BEEN LEFT ME BY NOW.CAUSE IT TOOK US 6 MONTHS TO KISS SO HE KNOWS SEX IS NO WAY NEAR HAPPENING.
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The_Scribe
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posted on 03-08-2006 at 19:43 |
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I am just warning you. 
Some guys will "wait" just to see how far they can get with a girl.
As in wait I mean he probably is seeing other girls.
I just don't trust guys like that.
I'd watch him and ask other girls about him.
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17_CONFUSE
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posted on 03-09-2006 at 10:46 |
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I UNDERSTAND
I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU MEAN. BUT I CAN'T ASK OTHER GIRLS ANY THING ABOUT HIM THEY MIGHT JUST LIE OR WANT TELL ME AT ALL. I DO THINK HE REALLY LIKES ME. I DON'T THINK HE IS SEEING OTHER GIRLS. BECAUSE WE ARE AROUND EACH ALOT OF THE TIME .I ALSO TRUST HIM.I GET WHAT YOU ARE TRYING TO SAY BUT HE MIGHT BE DIFFERENT. ALL BOYS ARE NOT THE SAME.I UNDERSTAND THAT YOU ARE WAITING TILL MARRIAGE THATS COOL TOO BUT I'M NOT WAITING TILL MARRIAGE OR AT LEAST I'M NOT PLANNING ON IT.WHEN I FIND SOMEONE THAT I REALLY LOVE AND CARE ABOUT IT MIGHT JUST HAPPEN I DON'T NEED A PIECE OF PAPER TO TELL ME WHEN CAN I HAVE SEX. I UNDERSTAND WHAT THE BIBLE SAY TOO BUT.......... THANKS FOR ADVICE ANYWAYS
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m5n3
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posted on 03-12-2006 at 16:25 |
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HI
Scribe she has been with this guy for six months. She just cant dump him. She has set the limits for sex with him and he is playing cool. He will wait until he cant wait no more.
You believe in having sex when you find someone you love and really care for. Thats great and hopefully he will stay beyond that. If he does not then what will you say to the next person you really like and care for???
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17_CONFUSE
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posted on 03-13-2006 at 09:33 |
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MISUNDERSTANDING
FIRST OF ALL IT'S NOT LIKE THE FIRST GUY I LOVE AND CARE I WILL LOSE MY VIRGINITY TO THEM. I HAVE BEEN IN LOVE BEFORE BUT NOTHING HAPPEN BETWEEN US. I KNOW I'M NOT READY NOW TO DO ANY THING WITH A GUY THEN WHAT WE ARE DOING NOW WHICH IS NOTHING. WELL MY BOYFRIEND UNDERSTAND THAT I'M NOT READY TO START HAVING SEX YET SO IF HE CHOOSE TO LEAVE THEN THATS COOL.BECAUSE I'M NOT GOING TO DO NOTHING TO PLEASE ANYONE.BUT I'M NOT WORRIED ABOUT HIM DOING ANY THING BECAUSE I TRUST HIM."TRUST IS EVERYTHING WITHOUT IT YOU HAVE NOTHING"
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Kitten
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posted on 03-15-2006 at 00:57 |
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Some Advice...
First of all, don't listen to negative comments from other people (i.e. telling you to dump your boyfriend or "hinting" that your boyfriend is a jerk). That's just going to plant seeds of doubt, and no one needs that. The decision is yours - alone. Seventeen is a confusing age, and you're entitled to be curious; and from what I've read so far, it seems as though you're being responsible. Whether it's kissing, sex, or something in between, just make sure you know what you're doing. Do your research. Ask people who have waited, and ask people who have not waited. Continue being responsible and it will work out for you. I wish you the best of luck. :)
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Kitten
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posted on 03-15-2006 at 01:58 |
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To m5n3
You stated, "You believe in having sex when you find someone you love and really care for. Thats great and hopefully he will stay beyond that. If he does not then what will you say to the next person you really like and care for???"
What's wrong with telling the "next person" that you've been intimate with someone else? I've heard so many people say, "If (s)he really loves you, (s)he'll wait." But look at the other end of the spectrum as well - If you really love them, you can look past the mistakes that they might have made.
Clearly you think that having sex before marriage is wrong. I won't debate that. But judging people for having sex is just as wrong. If you fell completely head over heels for someone (knowing they were not a virgin), would you actually let that stop you from being with them?
I understand that you're just trying to open people's minds to consequences; and in that, I commend you. However, you're going about it the wrong way. The comment you made seems rather negative and biased.
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17_CONFUSE
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posted on 03-19-2006 at 01:54 |
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DID I ......
THANKS KITTEN .LAST NIGHT MY BOYFRIEND WAS OVER MY HOUSE AND WE WERE KISSING AND HE STARTED SUCKING MY TITS. I WAS A LITTLE NERVOUS AT FIRST BUT GREW TO LIKE IT.IS THAT WRONG?DID I LET HIM GO TO FAR?NOTHING ELSE HAPPEN HE DIDN'T TRY ANYTHING ELSE.I KNOW I'M NOT READY TO MAKE ANY BIG STEPS YET TOWARDS ANYTHING ELSE.I THINK I JUST WAS CURIOUS THAT'S WHY I LET HIM DO THAT?IS IT WRONG TO BE CURIOUS?I NEVER DID ANYTHING WITH A BOY HE WAS MY FIRST KISS.
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wardrobelamppost
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posted on 03-19-2006 at 02:47 |
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Congrats
Hey, congrats I guess on last night. Hope it was like you expected it, or better. I don't want to rain on your parade if that was something you really wanted to do. And from here, things just start happening faster. Just make sure that he knows where you're comfortable with going. D.
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pussiegalore
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posted on 03-20-2006 at 10:34 |
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blahhhh
listen 17 confused
we only have one shot in life so you make sure you live it and enjoy it to the full...and yes...even sexually. now i'm not sayin u shud sleep with this guy, but i'm tellin you when you FEEL you are ready, GO FOR IT. i think its great that he sucked ur tits last nite, u go girl. maybe u could experiment and do other things like touching eachother, arousing eachother, exploring eachothers body...BUT NO SEX, you get what i'm sayin? get comfortable with your sexuality and your sexual side. this is possible and you can do so many things without having to have intercourse.
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LadyLucid
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posted on 03-21-2006 at 16:24 |
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Good for you
Im lyke, half expecting scribe to come in here and tell you that your dirty for letting your bf do that to you.
But the thing is, your not dirty. Did you enjoy it? Then good. I'ts a gr8 thing to become intimate with your bf and it can be fun. If it felt good, then you didn't let him go to far. Have no regrets!!!
And it doesnt mean yoru gonna have sex, just do things when your lyke ready and stuff.
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17_CONFUSE
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posted on 04-03-2006 at 23:11 |
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WOW
THANKS EVERYONE FOR YOUR KIND COMMENTS. TO NITE WAS THE SECOND TIME ME AND MY BOYFRIEND EVER TRIED ANYTHING SEXUAL. HE WAS SUCKING MY TITS AGAIN AND I STARTED TO FEEL ALL SEXUAL AND HOT ALL OVER. WHAT WAS THAT FEELING? I LIKED THE FEELING BUT IT SCARED ME A LITTLE.BECAUSE I HAVE NEVER FELT THAT WAY BEFORE.WE WAS LAYING ON THE BED I HAD A SKIRT ON I FELT HIS PENIS GET HARD.I STOPPED HIM FROM SUCKING MY TITS CAUSE I DIDN'T WANT TO LEAD HIM ON LIKE WE WERE GOING TO DO SOMETHING ELSE.NOW I'M KIND OF CAUTION ABOUT KISSING HIM CAUSE I DON'T WANT TO LEAD HIM ON.BUT I LIKE THE WHOLE FEELING OF ME EXPERIMENTING WITH HIM.I ALWAYS THOUGHT THAT IF I WOULD EVER GET THIS FAR WITH A GUY I WOULD BE NERVOUS.I WAS TOTAL COMFORTABLE.I HAVE BEEN READING ON THIS SITE THAT A GIRL FIRST TIME IS PAINFUL.MY BEST FRIEND TOLD IT WAS TOO.WHY DO IT HURT?I'M JUST CURIOUS I'M NOT THINKING ABOUT DOING ANYTHING JUST REAL CURIOUS THATS ALL
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Francie_81
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posted on 04-04-2006 at 09:35 |
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Hi
Well I don't think I'd like to break a girl in UNLESS I was in a relationship with her. Maybe it is painful for alot of women, my god us men really get away with blue murder by doing all the damage
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17_CONFUSE
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posted on 04-24-2006 at 21:58 |
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OH MY.....
JUST A COUPLES OF HOURS AGO MY BOYFRIEND HAD HIS PENIS AGAINST MY PRIVATE PART I DIDN'T HAVE ANYTHING ON NEITHER DID HE.HE DIDN'T TRY TO ENTER ME OR NOTHING.BUT I CAN'T BELIVE THAT HAPPEN.I THINK WE SHOULD SLOW DOWN FROM SEEING EACH OTHER CAUSE THINGS JUST GETTING TO WILD.I CAN'T BELIEVE I LET HIM UNDRESS ME.I'M FEELING SO NERVES RIGHT NOW.SHOULD THAT HAVE HAPPEN?I THINK I DID SOMETHING WRONG.I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD BE ABLE TO LET SOMEONE SEE MY BODY LIKE THAT.I THINK I LIKED THE WAY HE WAS HOLDING AND CARESSING MY BODY .AT ONE MOMENT I DIDN'T WANT HIM TO STOP.HE SAID HE THINK HE SHOULD STOP BEFORE WE DO SOMETHING WE AREN'T READY TO DO YET.HE SAID HE RESPECT MY WISHES AND IS READY WHEN I AM.AT THAT MOMENT I THINK I WAS READY.BUT NOW I THINK ABOUT IT IT WAS JUST THE SPIRIT OF THAT MOMENT.CAN SOMEONE TELL ME PLEASE WHAT I DID WASN'T WRONG?I THINK IS SHOULD GET SOME BIRTH CONTROL JUST IN CASE
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moonlite
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posted on 04-25-2006 at 04:00 |
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OH MY
You have a relaay nice guy. You had better try tio keep him. I admire both of you for not making entry. He must consider you to be worth waiting for, otherwise he would have taken adwantage of the situation
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17_CONFUSE
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posted on 05-06-2006 at 14:16 |
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MY BIRTHDAY
TODAY IS MY BIRHTDAY!!!!!! MADE 18. IT'S BEEN FUN SO FAR.PROM IS IN A COULPLE WEEKS.TALK TO YOU LATER
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17_CONFUSE
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posted on 05-11-2006 at 22:08 |
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I WAS THINKING
SINCE PROM IS COMING UP AND ME MY BOYFRIEND HAS BEEN MAKING PROGRESS ON THIS SEX THING.I HAVE BEEN THINKING ABOUT LOSING MY VIRGINITY ON PROM NIGHT.I WAS THINKING I HAVEN'T TOLD HIM OR ANYTHING I WAS THINKING ABOUT IT.I THINK I'M READY.
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