ariel
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posted on 02-26-2005 at 10:12 |
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Should I use tampons yet?
hey alll,
i just started getting my period a few months ago, and was wondering about using tampns. a few of my friends told me if you pop your own cherry with a tampon, you're not a real virgin anymore cause a guy wants to be the one to do that.
when my older sister tried to use tampons she said it hurt too much, so she asked a guy friend (not a boyfriend) to pop her open and make her vagina big enough for tampons. she said he'd probably do the same for me, and his dick isn't that big so it shouldn't hurt too much.
is wearing tampons worth it? (my sister thinks so) or should i wait and stick with pads? what do other girls do in this situation?
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shy_one
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posted on 02-28-2005 at 14:28 |
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angelbaby
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posted on 03-05-2005 at 05:32 |
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It's prefectly fine for you to use tampons. Some tampon manufacturers make a slimmer tampon for teens. If you use tampons and are a virgin, you will still be a virgin. The only thing that will make you not be a virgin anymore is having sexual intercourse.
Do not ask the guy friend to "pop you open". If you let a guy do that, he would be taking your virginity. Don't listen to you friends about the whole "not being a real virgin if you pop your own cherry". What a load of crap. Sexual intercourse is the only way that you won't be a virgin anymore.
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virgin helper
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posted on 04-25-2005 at 02:22 |
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its up to you...do you want to be broken in by a tampon or a real penis...or you can were your pads till your ready...i say go with your sis and have her friend break u in...remember its gonna take more than one time to be loosened up...so dont think one time and thats it it make take a few....last but not least you always have your finger let them do the work at your pace one at a time....good luck
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do_whats_best
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posted on 06-22-2006 at 10:10 |
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OMG
omg i cannot believ u told a person 2 hav sex wit sum random lad so that she can use tampons. how deluded r u?! jeez, i dont want 2 b rude but im jus gona b!!!! i dont believ until waiting until marriage for sex but i do think that it is important to be in a committed, loving relationship before losing your virginity. you do realise that "popping" you open isnt jus a nice favour u cn ask sum1 2 do. it is actuli sex. also if she has jus got her period how old do u think she is? probly about 13. cannot believ that you think it is a good idea 2 get her sisters friend 2 take her virginity. i also find it hard 2 believ that your name is virgin helper, how is this helpful?!
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princessprettykitty
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posted on 06-22-2006 at 13:31 |
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You can't lose your virginity by using tampons. The first few times I used them it hurt but its no problem now. You can get mini tampons which are recommended for first timers which are easier to use. Also try applying vaseline to the top as it helps you to insert it better. I don't think its a good idea to lose your virginity just so you can use tampons.
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melvaughn
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posted on 06-22-2006 at 14:11 |
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hymen
Why does everyone think using tampons are going to suddenly 'break' the hymen? Hymen's don't neccesarily break, they also stretch...Unless your ramming the tampon up there, your hymen won't break. Some hymen's can survive intercourse and still not break, but simply stretch, so don't worry about it.
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The_Scribe
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posted on 06-26-2006 at 21:38 |
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Your friends are right.
Breaking your hymen with a tampon or sex toy, etc, will devirginize you. 
Yes, your husband will want to be the one to "open" you up.
Use a pad.
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luckycharmsuntouched
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posted on 06-27-2006 at 14:35 |
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Dont listen to the scribe. the others were right. if you want to use tampons then you should. they do not break your hymen. i would not suggest to have your sisters friend "pop you open" because in doing that, you are having sex with the person. and werent you afraid of losing your virginity to begin with. so how would having some random guy "pop you open" help?
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gritalita
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posted on 07-03-2006 at 19:52 |
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Don't have sex for a tampon
Ariel,
You don't have to have sex with someone to use a tampon. Just buy a small sized one and try it out. If it doens't work, wait a while and try again. I, and many of my friends, are virgins who use tampons, and my gynecologist herself even said my hymen was still intact. The only thing that can take your virginity is having sexual intercourse with a man. Inanimate objects or yourself cannot "take your virginity." Whoever says it can has no idea what true intimacy or virginity means, they are just buying into stupid generalizations of what virginity is.
Scribe, you have some serious issues.
Either a) you work for pad companies and want to increase sales for pads
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b) you're a weird 40 year old fanatic with illogical views who gives advice to young girls
You're probably the latter. Do you feel intimidated because tampons are bigger than your penis? If so, I'm sorry.
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marguerite
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posted on 07-19-2006 at 09:23 |
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should i use tampons
You shouldn't let some guy Have Sex With You, just to break you in. Take it slow use the extra lights. or the juniors. Personally I like tampons better they are less messy and you can go swimming. Don't listen to the Scribe, hes not even a girl so he cant talk.
Remember:Take it slow. And you won't lose your virginity to a piece of cotton but you would to your sisters "friend"
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melvaughn
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posted on 08-01-2006 at 18:53 |
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Very funny
"Scribe, you have some serious issues.
Either a) you work for pad companies and want to increase sales for pads
or
b) you're a weird 40 year old fanatic with illogical views who gives advice to young girls
You're probably the latter. Do you feel intimidated because tampons are bigger than your penis? If so, I'm sorry."
haha...very funny, and I agree completely. Virginity is more than just a hymen. Having your husband get some peverse pleasure in 'breaking you open' doesn't sound romantic. It sounds more like some sadistic ownership towards the women and some weird pleasure at watching the women bleed on the wedding night.
Look up virginity in the dictionary. It involves two people- the 'giving' of your virginity to another person. You can't give your virginity to a tampon! Some young girls can still have their hymens even after having intercourse, let alone a pencil thin tampon. And what's to say that the man is a virgin. The women has no proof of that besides trust in what the man says. Anyone who say's that the women has to be a virgin or else they are undesirable, has...
1) never been in love (not even slightly) or..
2) they are following a legalistic religion that is binding them down with rules and doctrines, similar to Mormons and Jehova's witness.
Jesus himself befriended Prostitues so what's with the 'holier than thou' attitude. That's not very christian-like at all.
I know of some women who had horrible first time experiences and were in excruciating pain because of this. I know other women who couldn't have sex for months because of their hymen and because they never 'stretched' themselves before the wedding night.
People on this site are very uneducated and close-minded with weird legalistic, rule based religions that cause these kind of strange beliefs.
(:)
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luckycharmsuntouched
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posted on 08-02-2006 at 00:18 |
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yes
I agree completely. Religion is just a basis for beliefs not something to control your life. and besides...no where in the bible does it say that you should save sex for marige. it only says to keep your body as your temple and to honor it and also to not have sex with a person outside your relationship (like marrige).
I guess you can take from that whatever you would like to, but having sex before marige is not disrespectful to your body. I think it is in the right situations, a positive experiance.
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dreamangel
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posted on 08-07-2006 at 20:47 |
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just to add
People can take any passage from the bible and make it mean what they want it to mean based on their own subjective interpretations....therefore two different people can interpret the same passage to suit their own belief's, but that doesn't make it true. This is why people should think for themselves and not follow church leaders who may not know anything!
No where in the bible does it say "Thou must marry a virgin or else thou is going to hell" So religion and virginity cannot be talked about in the same sentence. People who believe they absolutely HAVE to marry a virgin and leave no room for any other options are following man-made rules that have more to do with obsession than religion and it has no conneciton with the bible whatsoever
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Tubgirl
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posted on 08-09-2006 at 21:56 |
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have you tried one of your dads socks?
my dad would pull it out of my snatch and pop it in my mouth while he railed me usually
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problemchild
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posted on 09-30-2006 at 07:28 |
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go fo wut yo sister said
it seems to me u shuldnt giv up dat chance...welll do wut u think is rite
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